I am thinking lately that I need to develop a good deal more patience. Perhaps as a result of being so connected, so used to instant gratification, I seem to have developed a “need” for immediate gratification in areas where this is not appropriate. Quick results. Being unwilling to wait. A focus on efficienty. But what about the satisfaction of having taken time to follow a slow burn through? Of relaxing and letting things develop on their own, on a more natural, albeit slower, course. And knowing that that is really the faster way to tget things done. You can rush through things and then have to go through them again to “get” them, or you can take time and get it done properly the first time. You can wait until the second or third date to kiss that girl rather than forcing things the first date. Not literally “force” but definitely pushing. And get things done faster that way–you don’t have to invest time in finding another date because you rushed things with the first date.
I’m learning the value of patience. Slow down. Get it done right the first time. There’s a rule of driving in a race when handling corners: slow in, fast out. Slow down adequately for the corner and then, once you’re at the apex, go ahead and hammer down. That way you don’t push the car too hard and have it lose grip and have to fight the car back under control. Stay in control, pushing things TO but not BEYOND their limit, and your lap times go down. You’re more likely to win the race.
I find some analogues to life in racing. Think a couple of corners ahead. Find the best line. Focus on what you’re doing. Develop a thick skin. Wear a helmet; sometimes you crash, but with a fire suit and a helmet and some safety gear, you can walk away from a lot of stuff that would otherwise kill you. And be patient. Wait for a hole, and be ready once it presents itself–then take immediate advantage of it. Move hard when it’s time, back off when it’s time. And all of this you learn through experience. You’re always learning–you don’t know everything. Listen to that guy in your ear trying to help you negotiate the track and let you know about crashes up ahead and the guy behind you about to smoke you. Know when to defend your position and when to let the other guy pass.